If you’re like me, you have read this headline or one similar to it at least a dozen times since Monday. And if you’re like me, you couldn’t resist reading the entire article or announcement.
Most of the articles I read noted that Sunday Rose is the first child for Nicole Kidman and Keith Urban. Yes, Sunday Rose is Keith Urban’s first child. No, she is NOT Nicole Kidman’s first child. Honestly? I’m sick and tired of reading that Sunday Rose is Nicole Kidman’s first child. And then as an afterthought, the media notes that Ms. Kidman has 2 adopted children with Tom Cruise. NO…this is Nicole Kidman’s THIRD child. Period.
Seriously. This infuriates me. I have 2 children. I don’t have one child and one adopted child. I have 2 children. Period. To qualify Nicole’s 2 older children by consistently referring to them as her “adopted” children, is just wrong and insensitive.
Perhaps the media is merely following Nicole’s lead. Prior to Sunday Rose’s birth on Monday, I read several interviews with Nicole in which she talked about her pregnancy. In each interview, Nicole went on and on about her pregnancy, the magic of it all, how wonderful it is to be pregnant, etc. Is it just me or don’t you think she should have chosen to downplay it a little bit, considering the fact that she did not carry her two older children? Then again, I suppose Connor and Isabella are used to it after their father’s excitement over his ‘first born’, Suri.
And while I’m on a roll…Sunday Rose? The poor kid was born on a Monday, for crying out loud. Not that Monday Rose would have been any better.
You know I read this yesterday and was just as you are… infuriated! I thought it was disgusting to act as if her other children “didn’t count” in the total # of Children that Nicole had.
I read it again and again… on this site: http://omg.yahoo.com/news/kidman-gives-birth-monday-to-girl-named-sunday/10499
I thought to myself (I think in a way to make myself feel less angry) that I guess this is the “First Child” of Nicole AND Keith’s…which is really how they worded it.
I just don’t understand the labels they put on children. Connor and Isabella are always referred to as her “adopted” children… so are they going to call Sunday her “Vaginal Daughter”?
Some people just pick silly things to get upset about! Why can’t you just be happy for the couple and let it go!! Those 2 “adopted” children want for nothing and are where they want to be apparently! Nicole has often said she wanted to experience natural childbirth and that doesn’t mean she cares any less for the other 2 children. “Vaginal Daughter” is so disgusting!
I agree 100%, and can’t believe how insensitive the media seems in this. But you are right…one article like this would have prompted me to join in and say, “I am the proud mother of 3 children” or that “Connor and Isabelle are so happy to welcome their baby sister”. It’s really so sad…
Valid points you have made. However, the only thought that crosses my mid is the very sincere hope that a trust fund has been established to pay for all of the therapy that Conner, Isabella, Suri, and Sunday Rose are surely going to need after being reared in those environments.
But why must Isabella and Connor be referred to as Nicole’s adopted children for all eternity? Why must the distinction be continually drawn? They are either her children or they’re not.
Right to her dying day my mother referred to me as her daughter only explaining my adoption when people commented that she must have been old when she gave birth to me (she was 54 when I was born).
I think the world at large knows that Nicole and Tom adopted the kids. And I don’t think that we are so stupid that we need to be constantly reminded.
I agree with you! The distinction between child/adopted child has probably already affected those children. I can understand wanting to experience childbirth and I am happy for Kidman, but still, I’d love for her to come outright and say she’s so happy with her 3 children.
And then again- Connor and Isabella are lucky. At least they got normal names unlike their unfortunate half-siblings!
First of all, I have to tell you I really enjoyed this post. While I see that you are mad, you can be so funny.
I aggree with you totally on the distinction. My 3 kids have 2 different fathers but no one goes around saying “my half brother” or “my half sister”. There has never been that distinction in this house and I wouldn’t want there to be.
Thanks ladybeams. You totally ‘get’ me! LOL.
I also like to hear what you have to say about brothers/sisters. It warms my heart to hear my husband speak of his 2 sons. He never says son and ’stepson’…always refers to The Boy as his ’son.’
Howdy! I found your blog from Kat’s blog.
I never paid much attention to this until I read your blog. You are so correct. There is no difference. They are all her children & yes, this new baby is her 3rd. With Nicole’s new baby & Tom’s Suri, I’m sure the older two feel like total outcasts. Very sad. And I certainly hope that is not the case.
I have four “adopted children” & never in my life will they be just that – they are my children. They are my life. They are my everything. And they will be ‘that’ for eternity.
Can’t wait to dig deeper into your blog.
Melissa – Thanks for stopping by and for your comment. Do you have a blog I can check out???